Daily Blog #1 - Intro
"It's okay to not be okay."
Over a year ago, I started advocating for mental health and little did I know just how much my life would change as a result. I met so many people, started to build an audience on my social media platforms, working with clients as a coach, speaking at events and many other things in which I reflect on with great pride.
There was a huge, huge issue though. And it's the standard that I set for myself.
As a mental health advocate, speaker and *insert inspirational sounding societal position here*, I made the huge but sadly not rare mistake of feeling that since I am someone who influences an audience, that I had to have my life altogether. This idea, in which I'm admittedly still dealing with, is harmful in many ways. Primarily, it's harmful to my own self and those who share it as we feel the need to wear a mask 24/7, often pretending our issues are non existent, bringing them no attention whatsoever and allowing them to take a huge toll on our lives.
The second issue is that I, and I say this in the most self loving way, was doing my audience a disservice. I was showing them who I thought should be me. Not actually me. In the long run, not that I or anyone should live solely to people please, it doesn't make people feel motivated to make a change for themselves, rather, it helps them buy in to the myth that their lives should be excellent 100% of the time. A standard in which many of us set for ourselves that is nearly impossible to achieve and leads to great disappointment.
I started this blog as I want to show you all me. I want to share my true self with all of you. I want to share my thoughts on my several passions from things such as ADHD, marketing, leadership and mental health awareness and personal updates. I want to build a deeper, more meaningful connection with a lot of you, and that's not something that can be done simply by a motivational tweet. I want to let you all know that while I've grown, I still struggle with things such as high amounts of sensitivity towards others thoughts of me and anxiety. That no matter how "inspirational" I may sound, I'm on the path, just like every single one of you.
I'm going to end this with a quote that really struck me from the human in which inspired me to "blog everyday because it's tomorrow", Seth Godin (founder of Permission Marketing).
“Our job is to make change. Our job is to connect to people, to interact with them in a way that leaves them better than we found them.”