How to Believe In Yourself with ADHD
"I just don't think this is going to work out."
How many times have you, as an ADHDer, had a BRILLIANT idea but zero execution because of self doubt?
I know I've had this many times.
I was chatting on Clubhouse recently, and I naturally said something that REALLY got me thinking lately.
I said "It's almost as if dealing with self sabotage is half the battle for people with ADHD".
I don't know if that's the case for every person with ADHD, but I sure as heck know that I can relate and that so many others do.
Here's the deal - if you're looking to develop a healthy relationship with productivity and how it relates to your goals, your self belief matters. Big time. I can't tell you the amount of times I've sat in my bed, doing nothing with thoughts roaming around like "maybe I'm just not good enough" - nonsense.
Today, I'm going to share with you 3 things that help me to boost my confidence when that negative self talk comes creeping around.
For me, affirmations need to genuinely feel empowering. Otherwise, it's completely useless. I wish I can give you the key, secret words to have empowering self belief but in my experience, this has been a really individual thing.
When I'm about to step in to something like hosting a Zoom event, one on one client calls, going on a date or managing a busy day at my café, you better believe I will be looking myself in the mirror before and give myself the BEST pep talk ever.
"My work matters." "I am incredible." "I freaking got this." - all successfully fire me up.
It's worth it to find yours and to try using them right before your regular, big thing.
Writing out your feelings, especially when you're feeling something deep, is underrated. Sometimes, when you write these thoughts out, it's a lot easier to get out of that state of self defeat than it would be if you tried to just "carry on" as if nothings hurting you.
I feel the same about having a coach or a therapist - being able to vent in these moments, whether it's on paper or with a human who will truly listen to you, is one of the best gifts you can give yourself.
"Why is that not true?"
This is one of my FAVORITE self coaching questions in the moments where those "I am not enough" thoughts arise.
I love challenging that shit. Bonus points when it's written down.
It's like a mental jiu-jitsu but this has been really helpful in boosting my self esteem.
For me, an example of this would be responding to the thought "This blog post won't help anyone." and me replying "that's not true because I am being honest, sharing what's helped me and even if it makes just one persons day better, this post was worth writing."
At the end of the day, I want you to walk away from this blog post knowing that you are 100% worthy and capable of looking yourself in the mirror, saying "I love myself" and meaning that. It's hard work, but it's a journey I'm glad to take and I hope you join me.
If you're a highly sensitive male with ADHD looking to boost your self esteem and get more done, book you're FREE one on one coaching call with me here today and let's help you get from point A to point B with your goals.